Divorce is a significant change for a family and some days can be more difficult than others. Father’s Day is definitely one of those days. Most children will probably want to spend time with their father on that day. The Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines provide that father’s receive parenting time with their minor children each year from 6pm on Friday to 6pm on Sunday on Father’s Day weekend. So, absent some agreement or order stating otherwise, dads should get to spend the entire weekend with their children.
Even if there is no disagreement as to dad spending the weekend with the kids, they are probably going to need some help making or buying him a present. When you were married, Mom probably took care of this. After a divorce, there’s no reason for this to change. It should be the same for Mother’s Day, so think of it as a fair trade.
If this is your first Father’s Day since the divorce; here are a few ideas to help make things go more smoothly.
Scheduling Time for Dads
Whether you and your former spouse share custody of your children or have a visitation schedule worked out, working around holidays and special occasions can still be a challenge. For Father’s Day, and Mother’s Day for that matter, it’s nice to let the kids spend time with that parent. It’s only fair to the kids and both parents. But what if Mom already had plans that weekend, or if the kids need to spend time with both dad and step dad? The important thing is to discuss your plans well in advance so you can find a solution that works for everyone.
Father’s Day Presents
When families are together, the mom usually helps the kids get presents for the dad on Father’s Day, but what happens when you’re no longer together?
You may be worried about whether you need to help the kids do anything special, or your feelings toward your ex-spouse may make it difficult to want to help buy or make him presents. It may seem strange to celebrate Father’s Day without your ex and organizing Father’s Day activities yourself may seem frustrating or just sad. You should still try to do what’s right. Just something simple like setting aside time and giving the kids some paper and markers to let them make a thoughtful card for their Dad can be enough. Remember, both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are as much about the kids as yourself or your ex. As a dad, try to plan something fun and simple that you and the kids can enjoy doing together. Something as simple as going to the part or lunch at a favorite restaurant can still create memories.
Remember The Important Things
Divorce is a big change and a major adjustment for both parents and kids. Remember to be patient with everyone in the family. Be sure to allow your children to feel sad or upset if they do, and encourage them to talk with you about their feelings. If you’re feeling depressed, remember that things will get easier with time. Try to be patient with your ex-spouse and remember that you are the only two parents your kids will ever have.
Contact Brett Hays Law to discuss your divorce, paternity or child custody case if you’re having issues or difficulties.
